Adulthood

So the whole thing with the drama going down and this is why you should never even, even for a single day ever be the second string. Imagine this: You're totally crushing on this person, and it seems like they're into you too. You're always texting, hanging out, and feeling all loved up. But then, boom! They start acting weird. They're not replying to your texts, canceling plans, and just generally being lame. Don't let them walk all over you! You deserve to have a person who actually wants to be with you and no one else. No playing games or keeping you waiting. Somebody who makes you feel awesome, not just a plan B. I know that letting go of someone you love is really hard. But, honestly, this is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Do not waste your time and energy on someone who doesn't even appreciate you. Some of these red flags you should watch out for The Hot and Cold Act: They're totally into you one minute, and completely out of sight the...

So like everyone's got their little spin on things, you know? It's sort of like our brain's default setting. No harm in that, but can screw with our thinking if we don't watch ourselves . First step to good decisions:  admit you are biased. Don't try to play super-objective robot because let's face it we are all human. For example, if you love a certain band, you probably think that their new album is the best thing to ever be released, though it is kinda meh. That's your bias at work. Once you have acknowledged your bias, the next thing to do is to listen to the other side. Yeah, I know it sounds boring, but trust me, it is actually super helpful. Suppose you are totally against homework. Instead of complaining about homework, try listening to a person who likes homework. Maybe they will say something about how homework helps them learn or prepare for tests. You will be amazed at what you discover. Maybe you will come to a realization that there is a truth ...

  Ah well, now your ex is in. She is texting, calling you, trying to slide back into your life like she never actually left. But let's get real here; that is not because she is the one. It's because she is messed up and needs a backup plan. The real reason she is back. She probably went out there thinking she was gonna find some hot, rich guy who was gonna lavish her with love and cash. But let's face it, most guys are after just one thing: sex. And once they get that, they're gone. She probably got played a few times, totally ignored, or even worse, ghosted. Well, so she's finally coming around to realizing that you are the only guy who actually cares about her. You're the one who's got her back, the only one who listens to all her problems, and actually loves her for who she is. And now she totally wants that again. Don't Fall For It You have to remember, though, that she's not here because she loves you. She's here because she needs you. She...